kenya, toni & tima

My friends, God bless them, aren’t in a position to donate a significant sum of money to my cause. And I was pretty sure that my sister wasn’t rolling with a crew of ballers either. Nevertheless, we moved forward with our plans for a day of reduced-priced nail, hair, and massage services at Alexander Myles Salon & Spa, my sister’s business in Wilmington, Del.

We were motivated less by our ability to pull off something fabulous and more by the fact that we’re both cancer survivors. Toni was diagnosed with Hodgkin’s disease, a cancer of the lymphatic tissue, more than 10 years ago, and she was inspired to take up the fight again after my diagnosis last year. Leave it to cancer to turn you into a crusader. This time around, though, she figured her best weapons were her blow-dryer and a flat iron. And as if we needed another reason to get inspired, September just happens to be Ovarian Cancer Awareness Month and Leukemia Lymphoma Awareness Month.

Toni and I started by coming up with a theme for our spa day, aptly named “Sisters Slaying Cancer,” and got the word out via e-mail and through friends and family. We reached out to Mizani, creator of professional hair care products, and L’Oreal to donate items for our gift bags, as well as a local businesses in Wilmington. We also invited representatives from the National Ovarian Cancer Coalition and the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society to talk about signs and symptoms.

sissy, taking a break from giving chair massages

On Sunday, the morning of the event, we were still working feverishly to set everything up — arranging flowers and balloons, sweeping up hair from the day before, and making coffee. At 9:45 a.m., clients starting arriving. By 11 a.m., my sister’s shop was teeming with women. Nail techs were doing manicures and pedicures, stylists were threading eyebrows and washing hair, aestheticians were giving facials, there were raffles. It was a busy day — and a huge success.

happy to raise awareness

Here’s what I’ve learned about holding a fundraiser: If it involves females and the promise of beauty, then you really can’t go wrong. Women love pampering, and if they can receive it while supporting a good cause, then so much the better.

But Toni and I certainly couldn’t have pulled off the event alone. The staff at Alexander Myles, who gave up their day off to work for free, performed wonders. So did Mizani and L’Oreal. Our gift bags were filled with premium hair care products and Color of Hope makeup bags, as well as other giveaways donated by folks looking to support us.

My dad donated a case of Champagne for mimosas, and mom brought all her friends, many of whom are cancers survivors themselves. And where would we be without all the women who came to get prettied up? There were about 50 in all, and a few who stopped by just to drop off a donation. Their checks of $20, $30, and $40 may not have been the deep-pocket money I imagined, but they meant far more. And at the end of the day, they added up to a pretty decent amount, 100 percent of which we donated.

sitting pretty

As soon as the event ended, Toni and I started brainstorming about how to make it bigger and better next year — our second annual “Sisters Slaying Cancer” fundraiser.

daria & veronica

stacy & darla

looking fabulous

me & kerry celebrating health and hope

I caught up with her this week at the L’Oreal Paris “Health & Hope Breakfast,” and we talked symptoms, risk factors, and the importance of knowing your family history. Washington is as lovely in person as she is on screen, but she’s more than just a pretty face fronting a campaign. She’s informed, aware, and compassionate. Now, if we could just get her some teal poms-poms. Check out what she had to say in our Q&A.

CS: Kerry, you often talk about getting involved with Color of Hope, in part, because your mom is a breast cancer survivor. Knowing your family history is important for women who may be at risk for ovarian and breast cancers. Have you become more vigilant about your own health, doctor’s visits, and screenings since your mom’s diagnosis?

KW: Yes. My passion for raising awareness was born around my mother’s diagnosis. I’ve been given an opportunity to support women’s cancer issues in my personal and professional lives. It was really difficult at first when my mom got diagnosed, but our family talked about it, and it wasn’t just the “C word” anymore. She put it all on the table, and, as a result, we developed fluidity around talking about health in our family. I think as women, we tend not to talk to our physicians and ob/gyns. I’ve been to see mine so many times, but we really talked for the first time about health and cancer risks after my mom’s diagnosis. Women are not taught to talk about our bodies. We’re taught to say “down there.” We’re not taught to say vagina, uterus, ovaries — the proper biological terms for our anatomy. I think we have to break free from the stigmas we assign to our bodies.

CS: Looking good goes a long way toward feeling good, especially for women survivors who are likely to lose their hair, eyebrows, and eyelashes. You work in an industry where your physical appearance is always on display. What advice would you give to women who, because of their treatment, shed the things we associate with beauty and attractiveness?

KW: I think the thing that women dealing with this disease have to focus on is building themselves up when they start to feel down. You may be losing your hair, but you can still be beautiful. I’m terrified of sounding hokey, but the L’Oreal slogan — “Because you’re worth it” — is so important. I felt like here’s a campaign that realizes it can’t just be a catalyst. It actually has to encourage women to truly take care of themselves. Maybe you might start wearing lipstick or have great cheekbones that you could show off. You have to celebrate yourself even when you’re feeling at your worst. On days when I’m not feeling so together, I’ll call my girlfriend and complain, and she tells me to go put on some heels, get pretty, and get out in the world. Half of life is showing up.

CS: President Obama wants to double funding for cancer research during his term, with specific money set aside for hard to treat diseases such as ovarian cancer. Do you think this is a good first step in making this disease more visible and ultimately improving survival outcomes?

KW: Definitely. We talk about early detection, but we have to put the money behind it. This is a disease that the president’s own mother battled. It’s so important for us to discuss women’s health, to get involved, and to provide a support system for women affected by ovarian cancer.

CS: Celebrity endorsements are critical for awareness campaigns. They make people pay attention to something they might not otherwise consider. When did you know that you wanted to become an advocate for this disease?

KW: The reason this became so important for me is because my mom is around today as a result of early detection, and that’s something that doesn’t typically happen with ovarian cancer. We have to work toward finding some sort of early detection method. Doctors often don’t know the symptoms of ovarian cancer, which are subtle. So much of this campaign is about awareness. Next month, for breast cancer awareness, you’ll be able to buy a million pink things. The projects surrounding breast cancer opened up the dialogue, and we’re hoping to do the same around ovarian cancer. L’Oreal is a really cool family to be in. All the proceeds from the Color of Hope makeup go to the Ovarian Cancer Research Fund, and they’re all good colors.